Shunned By The Pastor

Recently I started communicating with a Pastor from a neighboring town. There was just one thing, however, that was weird about our communications… it was through a dating website. Everything about him—the fact that he was in his twenties, well educated, had gone to a 4-year Uni and then to Harvard for his masters—was normal and appropriate for a dating website other than his occupation. I mean, that’s weird right?

In his first email he mentioned that he just moved to the area and had accepted an associate pastor position for a church in ______, Texas, and then mentioned the program that he was in charge of and asked me a few questions.   

What he didn’t realize is that he gave me way too much information in the first email. I was able to find him in less than 2 minutes through a google search.

As it turns out, he is real, and his credentials were accurate. He also is supposedly very well known in certain groups and organizations around the world…. He even has a youtube page.

Anyways, I decided to write him back. Except I let curiosity get the best of me and I asked him why he was on the dating website. His response was that “Pastors need a little lovin’ too.”

We communicated back and forth for almost 3 weeks through the website until one day he didn’t respond.

This was a little tough to swallow for a number of reasons: 1) it was the first guy to “reject” me through online dating, 2) the first guy to reject me since before my dating hiatus and 3) I was rejected by a pastor.

Most likely he thinks I’m not good enough for him… or that he’s too good for me. Either way they both mean the same thing and my response is still the same. I will continue to push myself to be better with or without you.

No person should ever make us feel like we are not good enough for them. 

So, yes pastor-guy, you have wounded my pride. But it will recover and I will continue to improve. You, on the other hand, are missing out.