[Here is my latest article with Singles Warehouse. To read it on there website, click here.]
In one of my last , I talked about how I was rejected by a Pastor and I said that rejection, in any form can be a good thing. And it can! We just have to learn how to understand, accept and learn from it.
I will be the first to tell you that rejection hurts, but I will also say that it’s impossible to avoid. It is an important part of life that teaches us many things.
Below I have listed a little bit of advice when it comes to rejection.
Coping with rejection starts with just one thing: honesty. Honesty about your self-worth, honesty with your feelings, and honesty about the situation.
1. Make a list of the things that you know to be true about you: List your good qualities, positive characteristics, and list what you really want out of life.
2. Answer the question, “Why did it happen?” When you give yourself the answer, stick to the facts. Look back at the situation and think about what, in the future, you would like to change about your interaction?
3. Stay positive! Don’t allow yourself to regret, second guess, or be hard on yourself. You can’t change the past, but you can change the future. Don’t put yourself down—this only will cut out hope and the belief we have in ourselves. We need both hope and belief in ourselves to move forward and take another risk.
4. Assess the situation maturely. Remember, it’s not the end of the world. Keep everything in a rational perspective and stay positive.
5. Give yourself credit for trying. If you do try again, remind yourself of the chance that you may possibly get rejected again, but don’t allow that to hinder your hope or confidence.
6. Talk about your rejection with someone who is going to listen and be supportive. It’s reassuring to know that someone understands and it forces you to put your feelings into words. Acknowledging your feelings help you to move beyond painful emotions and make steps into recovery.
When you’re making your lists, consider what things you can work on. Ask yourself, “What can I refine to help myself succeed next time?”
Thinking about improvement is a great thing. It reminds us that we are not perfect people. That there is always room for improvement in our personal lives. Use rejection as an opportunity for self-improvement!
The better we are at dealing with rejection, the less afraid we are to take risks. So, don’t be afraid of rejection. You don’t want to be scared to go after something you really want. Take the risk. Life’s too short to miss out!